More (random) Advice...

...Dude's NUGGET FOR TODAY.

TO WALK IN THEIR SHOES!

World class businesses the world over now seek to make empathy a core value. Individuals who are forward looking and who genuinely seek to make the most of their lives, and futures are mindful of the fact that the ability to empathize, that is, to put yourself in another person’s shoes – and actually walk the mile in them, is a great starting point for relationship excellence.

But the reality on ground, for both individuals and businesses alike, is that it is much easier to talk the talk, than to walk the walk. It’s easy to say as an individual that you’ll give the best customer service experience to your clientele or to say you’ll be the shoulder to lean on to all your friends. But to actually ensure you give each customer that walks in through your office doors that one-on-one experience, that pleasant encounter, that “you have all of my attention” effort often proves challenging. For an individual to say he’ll be the best friend to all his friends is often impossible. Businesses face the same challenge. For a business to enforce a system that actually ensures its staff and customers are always satisfied, and that they have the feeling that the business seeks to actually meet their needs and not just an outstanding profit is a severe challenge for energy corporations, financial organization and yes, even the small enterprise in your city.

The results of a lack of empathy are often immediate. A customer who suddenly goes off ranting and raving like a woman scorned, a friend who resorts to malice or the disclosure of age old secrets, or a sudden drop in client-base or profit margins. But these are the lesser evils. In the long run, our failure to put ourselves in the position of those we speak to, relate with or serve eventually leads to a collapse of trust and a withering of the relationship.

If we’d only take a moment, we’d see a thousand ways empathy could make a difference in our day-to-day activities. Being a bit more respectful to the nanny, a bit more patient with the colleague who’s not as quick to learn the ropes, a bit more sensitive to our friends and their emotions, a bit more consistent in our organizational policies could make all the difference. Today, just before we say the careless word or allow the foul thought run through our minds, we must consider how we’d feel if we were on the receiving end of our actions. A little empathy never hurt a fly!

Regards,
Dude 'O'

Wise words yet again!!!! We ALL better appreciate this bit of info...

'Quick summary of some stories we've missed:

Akon has BabyMama drama! He is being chased by an ex GF/hood rat (for money obviously) and she's taken to serving him papers for support payments via the L.A Times. Hawt Dayum... who's your Daddy now?

Russell Brand & new GF Katy Perry doing a mini PDA. Barfita!

Megan Fox IS soooo friggin' HAWT! What else is new.



Our fav trainwreck Lindsay Lohan has legal problems yet again. Yawnfest!

PEOPLE & US Mag are both claiming Jennifer Aniston is back ON with John Mayer. NOOOOOO... Don't do it Jen! Plus what about her & Gerard?

Oh... and LeAnn Rimes remains a HOMEWRECKING Biyatch - Ho'! No more evidence needed to confirm this.

STOP THE SEARCH...

... Fear not readers/followers, we are BACK ONLINE!

Apologies for being MIA, it has been down to stuff. Hell Yes, shopping WAS a major part of the 'stuff' we've been up to :))

Now what have we missed whilst away??? Ah ha...

Penelope is engaged!

It is confirmed... Penelope Cruz IS engaged to BF/fellow Spanish actor Javier Bardem. Congrats! What made him pop the question? Because of 'the bun in the oven'?



Rocking THE RING on her finger, Pene was out-n-about in NYC but still insisted on covering up her tummy. The ring looks interesting... Family heirloom maybe?!

Anyone else bored of people lying about/forgetting to state the obvious? Yep... Yawn! Soooo Britney pregnancy-denial Circa '06.

Loving the 'new' Kim K!

Kim Kardashian has been looking Hawt these days. Is it down to the new diet or getting back with her BF Reggie Bush? Either way, CHECK HER OUT!





And from the back:



Heart the legging looks Kim and the hair. You go girl!

Usher & wife Fight, fight....

... Did we mention Fight?!

Usher and his estranged wifey Tameka Foster (he dumped her) have taken their divorce battle to another level. It's getting P-H-Y-I-S-I-C-A-L... a truck has allegedly been physically assaulted during their latest fight round!



TMZ reports how Usher called the Police because Tameka (his former boo) 'allegedly' went off on his truck damaging it as well as her dignity.

He claims he had a 'verbal' ding-dong with her earlier that day about custody of their two kids and her's the step-to-step of how it went down:

After yet another 'verbal', Usher takes the kids to his mother's, he then drives back to HIS house where Tameka shows up "demanding to take the kids".

He tells her to eff off, she leaves (in a huff no doubt) he then goes back to his mama's but guess who turns up there as well? Yep, TAMEKA!

She starts "knocking on the door" and making loads of phone calls to the house (it's like WE were there) She is ignored (not a good thing) and the police are called but guess who made tracks before they arrived? TAMEKA!

Anyhoo, next day Usher goes to use his truck and notices 'SOMEONE' (cough, guess who?) scratched and vandalized the vehicle --police report talk-- and that's when he calls the police back. Again!

In the report filed by the responding officers, no evidence was found to support the accusations that soon-to-be ex-wifey did it. The entrance logs for his private neighborhood shows no indication that Tameka gained access into the area to carry out the alleged crime. More police talk.

Forget the police tracking down murderers, thieves, criminals... It's ALL about Usher & his equally petty-dumb wife. Purrrthetic!

That's what he gets for marrying a not-so-good-looking-obvious-golddigger. Just saying!

Update: Tameka's rep released this statement:

"This is just another attempt to disparage Tameka. It's simply an angry ploy that has no merit. Tameka's own truck was scratched but it's not clear how. The truck is registered in her name, it's not even Usher's car. Why would she vandalize her own vehicle?"

Of all the hood rats, he chose HER?!

Katy + Russell + Paris = Oooh la la!

Russell Brand has been on his best 'doting and caring boyfriend' behavior in Paris with new love Katy Perry. Looks like this is getting serious!

And holding hands? Too precious... we give it a month! Plus he NEEDS to cover up that chest (hair) rubbish, Nasty.

Guy: I still love Madonna (... but she is retarded)

Madonna's ex-husband, Film director Guy Ritchie, has kept a dignified silence about his split from the singer. That IS until now! Watch out Madge, he's "bringing it"...



In his latest interview in Esquire, Guy had this to say about his ex-wife:

'She's a manifester, if there ever was one. First-rate manifester. Madonna makes things happen.'

'And, of course, here you go: I still love her. But she's retarded, too,'

'Put Madonna up against any twenty-three-year-old, she'll outwork them, outdance them, outperform them. The woman is broad.'

Interesting. Mixed emotions, loves it!

Um... Is the last 'twenty-three-year-old' quote a sly dig at her current toyboy/plaything Jesus Luz? Well get it right Guy, he's 22!

Moving on...These two have been taking lil' digs at each other (and will continue to) so this latest 'outburst' from Ritchie is not surprising.

Remember when their divorce was finalised, Madonna got her spokesperson to announce Guy had received over £60 million in the settlement (Translation, she payed his bitch-a**) as well as branded him 'emotionally retarded'. He then forced her to admit the sum of money was 'inaccurate' and 'misleading'.

Post-divorce drama rocks right?! You KNOW you love it too.

Random: Here's...

...Dude's NUGGET FOR TODAY.

MIXED BREEDS!

Our daily nuggets have always tried to maintain that there is a pressing need for each one of us to know for sure who we truly are. We draw a lesson today from a tight circle of friends who only recently, after over two decades of friendship, learnt that an inner member of the clique had been struggling with an awkward and somewhat unexpected difficulty over the years. A somewhat unusual illustration that we’ll share and hopefully pick a positive lesson.

I might be alone on this one, but we like to think that there’s something “exotic” about people born to parents of different racial origins. We sometimes call them “biracial”, “mixed race” or the more common and yet highly offensive “half-caste” or “mullato”. We like to think how pretty they look, how it is, that they’ve gotten the best of both worlds. They seem more attractive, their skins are neither as light nor as dark as the ordinary. Their hairs are not as straight or as curly. Well, our subject group of friends learnt from the biracial member of their clique how he had struggled with the silent trauma of not truly belonging here nor there. Born to a father of African descent and a Caucasian mother, he’s always faced the complex of not being black enough to truly belong to the “hood”, or white enough to qualify for the erroneously perceived “superiority”. He always sought to be truly accepted or at the least described by something other than the color of his skin. Putting up a bold (and perhaps pretty) face of confidence and denying the inner battles, had left him beaten and bruised over the years.

A somewhat unconventional illustration as we said from the start, but we’ll choose our lessons carefully. There’s nothing wrong with being biracial, and our lesson surely isn’t on racism. There is however, a lot wrong when we cannot really find our bearing. There’s everything wrong when we cannot lay claim to our true position. There’s a lot wrong when all that we are, is what society says that we are. Today, we must set out to work on who we are, and what we want we want to be defined as. The last thing that should define is should be our skins, or appearance! Lasting legacies would be a good place to start!

Regards,
Dude 'O'

Riiiight!!!! So the advice for Today is NEVER be defined by our appearances? Hmmm... Does that go for the unattractive people out there too? They know WHO THEY ARE --cough LeAnn cough--

Sienna & Johnny sure are spending A LOT of 'downtime' together!

We all KNOW Sienna Miller's history with married men and/or her co-stars right? Well Johnny Lee Miller is both so... We wonder what his wife thinks of him taking their kid for a walk with a bitch. As well as Sienna's dog?!



Michele seriously needs to nip this shiz in the bud because she does NOT want to be a yet another small bump in the Sienna-gets-who-she-wants-regardless Ho' road?

Just saying/pointing out the obvious!

Seriously Rihanna...

... Or should we say Mrs T?



This charade/fashion experiement needs to STOP. NOW! Saying/bitching that, the hair looks good(ish)

Russell is 'in love' with Katy. Or so he says!

It looks like the Russell Brand - Katy Perry hookup fest continues. Smitten Russ went to Paris to continue... Whatever-it-is-they-are-doing together. 'Still feel she is punching below her weight class!



They attended the Fendi party together last night and looked... however two people doing whatever-they-are-doing should look!

Publicity stunt or real thing? Either way, Good luck. Katy!

Quickie: Spot the irony!

Kelly Clarkson + a Salad bowl = Ahem... that'll be the day!

'Too easy....

Here's some "Good Advice we all need"...

...Dude's NUGGET FOR TODAY.

I’M HAVING A BABY!

There are fewer happier times known to man that those golden moments after the birth of a child. The start of a new life heralds the promise of many great new things. The constant compliments from well wishers on how adorable our little bundle of joy looks, or the gifts of goodwill from family and friends help to ease the pain of a traumatic birth process. But before the D-day is 9 long months of discomfort and roller-coaster rides, as every mother will testify.

In a sense, the life of our dreams could be compared to the birth of a baby. In the complex sequence of events that mark the whole pregnancy and birth of a new life, we find striking similarities with the onset of success. A few fetal citizens may chose to spend only 7 months in their cozy country, but the majority stays for the whole 9 months. In that period, mothers are known to be constantly conscious of their diet, and exercise, about crossing stagnant waters (and whatever other superstitions). There are those sudden “kicks” that make us fear that something might be going wrong. And then the protracted spell of silence in which we wonder if all is truly well in there. Then the long awaited day comes, and we must muster all the strength to push forth life. Our success stories may span much more than the mere 9 months in the “womb”, but we must keep to the “diet” of hope and hard work and persistence. We must “exercise” with determination, and ignore such superstitions that may say our dreams will never come through. When challenges “kick”, we endure the pain with a smile, knowing it’s a sign our “baby-success” is well alive. And when the fire goes out in silence of a forgotten dream, we rekindle with hope. At then at the verge of our breakthrough, we must “push” with vigor.

But then, most parents will tell you that the greatest part of the work to be done comes in the many slow years after the birth of a child. And so it is with success. Today, we are going in for a “pregnancy test”. Is your dream alive and kicking? If it is, ante-natal classes will be in line. And if we find that we aren’t quite pregnant yet, then we go back home and do the “work”. Today, like a band of merry pregnant women, we must encourage each other in our journeys to success! So, who’s “pregnant”?

Regards,
Dude 'O'

Phew!!!! Once we read the title, the ovaries ran waaaaay up our hooha... but after finishing it, 'WELL SAID Dude 'O'. Well said indeed!

Em... How much for the night RiRi?

What is right with these latest Rihanna outfits?

Answer: NOTHING. If she WAS aiming for the 'Kerb-crawler' look... 'ACHIEVED!!!

Quickie: A family that jogs together...

... stays together (for now at least) so here's Tom Cruise, wife Katie Holmes --when is she going to change it to 'Kate Cruise' already-- and adorable son Connor. How sweaty-cute!



You DO NOT see Nicole (Kidman) doing this with her fam, even though this should not a post-divorce, scoring competition. If it was... Tom wins hands down!

More LeAnn vs Brandi Drama. It is ON!

So the whole world now knows how LeAnn Rimes had an affair with/stole Eddie Cibrian from his wife (Brandi Glanville)?! Well... Now Brandi is claiming Slut 'L' is "invading her space". Translation, bring it Biyatch!!!!



Speaking to US, Brandi said:

"I have a new neighbor and her name is LeAnn Rimes. She's moved in a half a mile from my house and a block from my son's school. So she is completely space invading me at the moment so things are not cool. There is a point where she needs to have a sensitive side and back the F up. Honestly, she's Single White Female-ing me. She wants my life. She wants my kids. She wants my husband. She can have most of everything but just not my children or my family."

As much as THIS brewing Catfight is sort of amusing, Brandi needs to take the High road and shut her trap a lil'. Just leave it to the big 'K' (Karma-cita) to do its thang!

Plus she totes wins in the "battle of Looks/beauty". LeAnn/Falkor is a '3' (and that's being generous) while Brandi is easily a '7/8' (closer to 8 'cause she's a total MILF)

Random: Anyone wanna get somethin' off their chest?

...Dude's NUGGET FOR TODAY.

WHAT’S ON YOUR MIND TODAY?

It probably won’t be on our to-do list to visit a shrink at some point in our lives. Perhaps it’s the idea that we’ll be admitting that something’s wrong with us upstairs, or the thought of sharing our deepest secrets with a stranger, and still have to pay them for it. Which then makes us wonder if those psychiatrists really have all of the answers to our questions, or if they have the complete work book to the human mind.

Thing is, the success of the treatment for most patients who go to see a mind doctor is in the willingness of the patient to share and disclose their issues. Many who’ve seen a shrink before will tell you the guy probably said little or nothing but somehow, they still felt better afterwards. The logic lies thus: there’s a great deal of relief that comes from vocally expressing our fears and concerns, in sharing troubles and burdens. Our problems are like meat, the longer their bottled up, the more they stink. We are vocal beings, and so when say out what it is that’s on our minds, we get a clear picture of the magnitude of the issues we are faced with. And quite often, we realize that our issues really aren’t as bad as we think they are, when we say them out. Should we then go about complaining about every single issue that we have on our minds to everyone who cares to listen? Not unless we want to become a nuisance, and have even those we pay to listen to us, cringe at the thought of our whining.

A problem shared, is a problem half solved. Resolve today, to share your thoughts with a friend who knows your history (and has time to listen) or a stranger who won’t be in a position to judge us (unless we’re truly boring). Today, get the load off your chest. Confront your problems in person, and by words.

Regards,
Dude 'O'

K, So long as we are sharing/confronting our probs... CAN (dirty, lying moronic) people STOP SLEEPING AROUND/CHEATING? Nasty!

And budding 'fashionistas' (RiRi et. al) that EDGY LOOK is no where near acceptable though it is "laughing-AT you-& not-WITH you" kinda funny... Stop with the experimenting. Phew, Dude was right, now that's off our chest, 'feeling soooooo much better!

Madonna + Lady Gaga + SNL = Travesty.

Spot the tranny lookalike if you will!

Just saying... BTW, thoughts on who was the worse of the 2? Think Madge should stick to dating/borderline molesting toyboys.

Christina Milian is pregnant... Like Duh!

While out and about this weekend, Christina Milian revealed the main reason behind that Quickie, tacky wedding of hers to The Dream, her Humps, her lady lumps, her BABY BUMP. Oh... right... that, tell us somethin' we DON'T know!



Well now we know if it wasn't for the unplanned child, she would NEVER have sold herself cheap (Vegas weddings are soooo last 3 seasons) Darn those ovaries!

Alicia + body hugging catsuit = Um... too much snacking?!

So everyone knows we loves us some Alicia Keys but she should NEVER, EVER wear this:

She hasn't got the legs, thighs, hips, tummy... Come to think of it, ANYTHING to salvage whatever 'thin' look she was going for.

PS-: Those that think the reason we are hatin' on her is because she's a homewrecker, You are dead RIGHT!

'We' (clean-hearted people that only lust after Hawt, SINGLE folk) feel Husband stealers (like her & you-know-who... starts with an 'L' rhymes with LeAnn) should at least have the aesthetic decency to remain slimish. It should be in the H.W Guide 101 handbook!

Katy & Russell Brand? WTF?!

OMGeee!

Okay -- so like-- take this post with a really big pinch (of you-know-what) but word is Katy Perry kissed crazy British comic Russell Brand and she liked it... (sorry for that) and now they are a couple. Wha...Whe... Huh?

A source tells UK's The Sun:

'Russell has fancied Katy for ages. When they were both in New York for the music awards Russell finally got his chance to work his charm on her.

'Katy knows his bad boy reputation but could not resist - especially when Russell sent a love poem with a note attached saying, "Please send me a poem back."

'Russell killed himself laughing when Katy sent a photo of her boobs with the word 'poem' scrawled across them. The next minute Russell picked up the phone and invited her to Thailand for a secret getaway.'

Oh but wait, it gets worse! Katy recently posted on her Twitter:

'After a week in magical Thailand I'm ready to face the real world again. Been schooled on Morrissey, Oscar Wilde & Peter Sellers... inspired.'

She also posted this yesterday:

'Pssst... I've got a secret. HUGE news coming in a couple days! No, my ego is not prego.'

FYI, Brand loves him some Morrissey, Sellers & Wilde.

Plus, for all our sakes, her 'HUGE news' better be that this odd coupling is all an illusion/stunt because she can do sooooo much better. And dumb question, just WHAT do women see in him anyways? Seriously?!

And how about her on/off BF Travis McCoy? Are they defo OFF again? Thoughts about this rumored hookup?

Beyonce to be a big sis yet again?

In an upcoming episode of "Who's the daddy?" some random woman has filed a paternity suit against Beyonce's father Mathew Knowles. Dun, dun, dun!

Um... If THIS suit has any cred, 'B' is going to go nuclear mad. Madder than the moment she got told rival RiRi had also become a 'uge star!



According to TMZ, 6-months pregnant lady, Alexsandra Wright, filed the case in L.A. County Superior Court as well as also hired Neal Hersh (big time lawyer) meaning she's NOT to be messed with.

Hawt Dayum... Mathew (who BTW has been with B's momma Tina for --like-- ever) is in major Dramalama trouble with all the ladies in his life! Dude better hope (TO GOD) this is a sad, misguided mistake or else....

Random: Tori rushed to the hospital (Twice in 2 days)

Tori Spelling has been making trips to the ER complaining of 'severe abdominal pain'. Uh huh... Anyone going to mention the Elephant in the room? As in it could be BECAUSE SHE'S TOO THIN/ANOREXIC?!



Her husband Dean McDermott (she stole him from his 1st wife you know) wrote on Twitter:

"Just out of the hospital, After a battery of tests, no conclusive answers. She still feels terrible. Hope it passes soon. She's in a lot of pain."

'We' feel a decent sandwich/large amount of Carbs will solve her 'Abdominal pains'! Just saying... Maybe Mum Candi could sent her one. On second thoughts...

Madge: I'd "rather get run over by a train than marry again."

Um... So this means she's NOT going to ever marry her toyboy? She'll just remain a cougar (looking past her sell-by-date) who hooks up with lots of younger models for a bit of meaningless fun?!



Guy (Ritchie)... Better get the train ready (just in case)

Rose is such a shameless man-user!

That's kinda, sorta according to Radar Online which reports Rose McGowan has used & dumped her film director BF Robert Rodriguez. That'll teach him not to stupidly throw away his wife of 16 years for any hussy!



The pair got together/had a dirty affair behind his wifey's back in '06 and then got engaged '07.

'Clearly giving her enough time to get/sex-convince Robert to cast her in almost all the projects he was working on including the lead in 'Red Sonja'. Only a whipped fool woulda seen her in THAT role.

Soooo... What/Who next for Rose?

A big time Director/prospect/meal ticket like Spielberg? Scorsese? Even Polanski with his current legal probs? You know she'll go 'there' for a job!

RiRi + ANY clothes (these days) = "PSH"

= "Publicity Seeking Ho'" = "Probably Seeking Help"?! 'Calling for an immediate Fashion Intervention.





Seriously we here at splitsup.com are really, really, REALLY worried (& upset) at what Rihanna has been doing to herself/outfits lately.

BTW, the hand (in the above photo) dragging her is/should be the Interpol-Fashion squad taking her away... SOS Rihanna, sort it out stat!

Random: Getting ready for Christmas already? Well...

... Read Dude's NUGGET FOR TODAY.

A LETTER TO SANTA!

I sure hope I’m not the only one who goes around thinking how time flies. Only a moment ago we were setting resolutions for the New Year, talking how we’d resolved to put an end to our “bad habits” and start with the good. And shortly, we’ll be making arrangements for Christmas. In between, a lot has happened. We’ve seen our perceived self-discipline come to naught. We’ve slept off our dreams over and over, and have gone back to the way we were this time last year.

Ok, maybe our pay cheques have added an extra zero or two. Or we’ve found our life partners and made a mini version of our selves. But how much of a difference can we point out from where we were this time last year and now? If the only difference in our lives is in the increase of our waist or dress size then there’s cause for alarm. If our dreams are still unknown, if our ambitions remain a distant achievement, and if our present reality is what we call our comfort zone, then we have a lot left to achieve. Time, they say, waits for no one. Fortunately, our dreams may tarry for a while and our bright and colorful future may stay within reach in the hope that we’ll make the much needed effort soon. But we still must make haste in pursuit of our goals. Challenges may abound in the form of a stifling working environment, or worse still, a non-existent job. Yours might be the frustrations from a lover now turned stranger, or the complete absence of a lover. Whatever the limitation or frustration in this moment, there’s time for a change.

While the days run fast, and time speeds off like a hurricane storm, we must remember that the moment of change could be in as short a while as a day or a minute. Today, make up your mind to make the rest of the year the best days of this year. Strive for the extraordinary, and make your quest genuine and passionate. Resolve, not to have this year end like all others. Make this year, and what’s left of it the best you’ve ever had. That said, I’m officially making plans for Christmas. “Dear Santa, how’s the North Pole at this time of the year …”

Regards,
Dude 'O'

Hmm! So... Santa baby, slip a lil' Kellan/Trevor under the tree for me, 'been an awfully good girl...